Coping with grief
When you lose someone close to you, a dear friend or member of your family, you may experience a variety of emotions and feelings ranging from sadness and hopelessness, to anxiety and anger.
What might influence how you grieve
Everyone is different, and grief is very personal. Below are some factors that may impact on how you deal with loss:
- How the person close to you passed away
You may have anticipated the passing of your friend or family member if they had been sick for a long time or their death may have come as a huge sudden shock
- Your relationship with the deceased
Grief may be more intense if you were very close to the person you have lost
- Your beliefs or religion
Some people believe that death symbolises rebirth and celebrate their loved one’s life, while others grieve for their loss
- What you were taught about death when growing up
Watching how your parents grieved or how those around you dealt with loss may have imprinted on you when you were younger and influence how you react now
- Your physical and mental health
Some people take longer to recover after experiencing loss and may need some extra support from their GP or a counsellor.
How to cope with loss and grief
There is no set time period for grief, it can last a short time or you may feel affected every day for over a year – it depends on you and the type of bereavement you have experienced.
To help you get through this sad time:
Express your thoughts and feelings to people you can trust. This could be a friend, member of your family, or health professional who will listen and help you deal with difficult and painful emotions.
- Feeling sad is ok
It is healthy to allow yourself to grieve and expressing your sadness is not ever a sign of weakness. Over time, the intenseness of grief will fade.
Emotional stress can cause you to feel more tired than normal. If you are feeling depressed and sleeping for long periods of time or are having trouble sleeping speak to your GP.
- Keep a sense of normality
Continue with your day to day routines, simple tasks can help.
- Avoid alcohol and drugs
It can be tempting to drink and take drugs to mask pain, but it will make you feel worse when the numbness wears off.
- Keep an open mind to therapy
You may find it helpful to discuss how you are feeling with someone who is neutral. They can give you the mental tools to cope with grief if you are struggling.
If you are feeling overwhelmed with emotions and don’t feel able to cope, book an appointment with your GP as they will be able to refer you to support services and prescribe medications if required.
Our friendly Funeral Arrangers and Directors are here to give support throughout the entire funeral planning process and will always provide a listening ear. We also offer bereavement support in Essex in a group setting or on a one-to-one basis.